One of the biggest stumbling blocks in (early) sobriety: saying no to alcohol. How do you handle it? Do you prefer a little white lie (“I’m on medication right now,” “Can’t tonight,” or similar), or do you go completely honest? How do you manage the situation?
With your closest friends, it’s often fairly straightforward. But what about larger groups, company parties, team events, etc., where people probably still see you as someone who enjoys a drink?
How do you do it — and how do others in the community handle it?
Hey, great question — and thanks for starting this thread! Early on (I’m at about 7 months now), I was super nervous about this exact thing.
With close friends I just went honest: “I quit drinking — it wasn’t working for me anymore.” Most were actually really supportive once the initial surprise wore off.
At bigger stuff like work events or parties where people knew “old me” as the fun drinker, I usually keep it simple and firm: “No thanks, I’m good” or “I’m not drinking tonight.” If they push, I add “I’m taking a long break — feels way better this way.” I almost never get more than a “Oh cool” or “Respect.”
Biggest game-changer: I show up with a drink already in hand (sparkling water + lime or a fancy NA beer). People offer way less when they see you’re already sorted.
